The Need for Brothers

We are Men of God. 

Men initiate. Men build. Men engage. 

Men of God know these actions must come from a foundation of their focus on the four main roles. This focus is their top priority. Full stop. 

Sonship. Our relationship as Son to Father God. Knowing we are beloved by a good and perfect Father who loves us no matter what. That we have tremendous worth and value. Truly believing that we were made on purpose and for a purpose. Our joy is to lead, cultivate, and impact your world in the name of Jesus. This father/son relationship centers us on the most important relationship found on earth, that of family. 

Family. God’s cure for loneliness. His vehicle for transformation. And we’ve got a crucial part to play in his plan. 

Being a husband to a thriving wife. Seeing the light shine in her eyes. Cultivating the environment so she can flourish to be all that God has created her to be. When we are old, we want our wives to say “marrying this man was the best decision of my life.”

Being an intentional, faithful father. A man that is the priest, provider, pursuer, and protector of his home. One that is slow to anger, quick to listen, and is filled with grace and unconditional love. This is not a weak man, but instead one who musters up the courage and faith to emulate Jesus in all areas of his life. He rages against complacency and fights for the hearts of his children. He is the one his sons want to be like and an example of the man his daughter will marry. 

But this man must have the wisdom to know that he cannot do those things alone. He also must be aware of the fact that this world distracts us and sends us temptations to get our priorities upside down. 

This brings me to our fourth role; brother. 

The role that makes all the other ones possible. 

We need brothers to help us in our sonship, our husbanding, and our fathering. We cannot become the mature man God has called us to be alone. In isolation, men whither as their wives and children’s hearts cry for more. The self-reliant man is a dead man. So is the one too proud to confess weakness or ask for help. The enemy loves a man who has no need for God or others, as that’s one less man for him to worry about. 

Our vision is to raise up ten thousand fathers. We do that by focusing on the four main roles; Son. Husband. Father. Brother. 

And it’s up to you. 

Only you can be the man God has called you to be.

Only you can be a Godly husband to your wife and a faithful father to your kids. 

You can delegate a lot of roles and responsibilities, but you can’t delegate these. 

It’s your job. 

So rise up, Man of God. 

Overcome fear and initiate with your brothers. 

Build the band of brothers that can carry you to heights you could never achieve on your own. 

Engage in the lost art of friendship, tossing to the side the unnecessary to carve our time to be with one another. 

For it is not good for man to be alone. Trust me, you don’t want to be 75 years old and not have any friends. 

The time of looking for others to feed you is over. It’s time to gird your loins and do the hard work necessary to get what you need to become the best version of yourself. You must act.

Following Jesus in this crazy world is hard. 

A healthy marriage where your wife feels pursued and championed is ridiculously difficult. 

Being a good father when you're tired and stressed ain’t easy either. 

There is a reason there are so few older men who look like Jesus.

Because in this world you will have trouble. But take heart, we fix our eyes on the one who has  overcome the world.

And we surround ourselves with brothers who help us do that. 

I believe in you, and it is my deepest desire for you to see yourself how God sees you. As a beloved Man of God called to lead his family into the greatest joy: more of Him. 

I want you to become all that God has for you to be and I want you flanked on both sides by men who will champion you day and night. 

Go find the guys who make you better. The ones who have something you want. The men who inspire you, challenge you, and ask the necessary questions that most are too scared to ask. 

These men are rare. They are in demand. They are on a mission and don’t have a lot of free time. But they are out there… and they are worth pursuing. 

Those iron-sharpens-iron relationships don’t happen by accident. Nor do they happen overnight. But you can start today.

So set up that coffee or lunch meeting. For God sakes, get outside and do something fun. Call up a close friend, and if you don’t have any, now is a great time to make finding one or two a priority. 

Make time to be with one another, mustering up the courage to break through the surface level conversation to boldly share your heart. Talk about your faith, marriage, and fathering. Talk about the things that matter. The investment will pay off dearly as time passes on. 

You will be better for it, and it will no doubt positively impact your role as son, husband, and father. 

You are a Man of God. You initiate, build, and engage… not for your sake, but for your God and your family. 

So go do what you were made to do today.